I remember a while back hearing that in certain cultures they don’t say “I am 40 years old” like we do here in North America. Instead they say “I have 40 years.” The reason for this is because they are expressing the fact that one has however many years of wisdom, experience, and insight. I found that saying “I have” rather than “I am” resonated with me more and that it gave a more positive connotation to turning a year older since I was gaining more experience and wisdom as the time passed.
Well, I don’t have 40 years (yet) but I now have 30 years.
I’m really happy to be 30. My 20′s were challenging for sure – trying to figure out who I was (and then learning to be proud of it…like knowing I have a sensitive soul), making the realization that I couldn’t change what was around me, finding a job that I loved, learning to be the best person I could for Vince and my family and friends (through however many trials and tribulations). It was also the years that I lost 25 lbs, moved out with and then got married to my high school sweetheart, saw my nephew and niece being born, finished my undergrad and got a “real job.”
I have 30 years of all these experiences that has shaped who I am and made me a better person. All of which I am proud of. And it’s not to say I have it all figured out…I most certainly don’t, and I look forward to being a lifelong learner.
I’m not afraid of turning a year older, and entering my 30′s. For a little while, I had a checklist looming over my head – travel, buy a car, buy a house, have kids, finish my masters. It took me a VERY long time to accept that those things wouldn’t necessarily bring me happiness. And it took me even longer to accept, be content with and proud of everything Vince and I have together and each as our own person.
At the same time, my 20′s taught me how to set goals and work towards achieving them. I found a job that I love, Vince and I are almost free of all our debt, I’m almost done my masters, Vince is working toward getting his Red Seal, we want to take a big trip to Europe or Asia next year. I’m excited about those things, and all the other plans we have as a family.
My birthday this year was the best I’ve ever had. Vince and I did a day trip to Niagara-on-the-lake, complete with a picnic, wine tour, and dinner. We hosted a birthday party with friends (that had us going to sleep at 6am!), and then gathered with our dearest family for a lovely brunch. I was so completely overwhelmed with gratitude for the love I felt for all of these people, and for the time they all took to celebrate with me. I am one VERY lucky woman!
Over 300 photos were taken this past weekend, so I will take some time in the next post to share a handful of the best of them with you (with a focus on the food….of course). For now, here are a couple of teasers
Till next post!